Today, we’re going to discuss why you need to stop whining, complaining, and bitching. Today, we’re going to remind you of why you need to act instead of beg.
The Uselessness of the Victim Mentality
“Man is condemned to be free; because once thrown into the world, he is responsible for everything he does. It is up to you to give [life] a meaning.” – Jean-Paul Sartre
Throughout history, being a victim has remained a popular choice:
- People love to blame the “other” for their complex issues instead of taking responsibility for their vices.
- Weak individuals define themselves by victim labels instead of their virtues.
- Everyone believes they are entitled to something and argues the world owes them a living.
Why do people play the victim? To earn what they have not earned. Whether you wish for attention, money, or power, being a victim is a quick and dirty way to game our corrupt systems.
However, being a victim has many drawbacks for the individual. When we are perpetual victims, we fail to grow, improve, and challenge ourselves. Such a deficiency creates a victim culture where we beg for and complain about life instead of rolling our sleeves and working.
However, You Are An Individual
Being a member of the victim culture gives you temporary power. Unfortunately, you are always a slave to something, whether it be your vices or those in power. Thus, when you want to do anything meaningful with your life, you will find yourself too weak or imprisoned by the limitations you’ve embraced.
As an individualist, you have to live your life differently. Yes, embracing personal responsibility is difficult. However, when you take charge of your life, you don’t have to beg the elites for personal power. You don’t have to ask your collective groups for permission. And you don’t have to look at culture and society with anything more than a sneer.
Today, we’re going to talk about taking an active role in your life. By becoming more active, you can accomplish your goals and achieve virtue. Such achievement will ensure you can live life on your terms, and you will never have to beg, bitch, or whine again.
How do you become more active in your life?
- Acknowledge no one is going to save you or accomplish your goals – You are responsible for overcoming your vices and strengthening your willpower.
- Understand what you want to do and be honest about your desire to achieve these goals – Once you define your goals, you have to pursue them with everything you’ve got.
- Set clear plans and get to work – Planning your day will help you define what you need to do, when it needs to get done, and how you’re going to do it.
- Keep your head high by giving yourself rewards and developing your rational pride – You are entitled to the fruits of your labor. Enjoy your successes and prepare for the next fight.
1. No One Is Going to Save You
“If you could kick the person in the pants responsible for most of your trouble, you wouldn’t sit for a month.” – Theodore Roosevelt
Acknowledge that no one is going to save you. You are responsible for protecting yourself. It is the weak man who waits for someone else to serve him or settle his debts.
Therefore, you must understand your flaws. Define what problems hurt you the most, then seek a way to resolve them. When you find ways to conquer your vices, you place power in your hands by freeing your time, energy, and money. Furthermore, you see how powerful your will is. Consider these questions:
- How do you waste your time, energy, and money? Do you spend money on stupid toys? Do you waste emotional energy on corrupt people?
- What would you be able to do with your freed resources? For example, how could you better spend your money if it wasn’t being wasted?
Once you define your vices, create a game plan. Understand where you are, then determine how life improves once you overcome your flaws. Keep your ideal in mind as you travel forward.
2. How much are you willing to Sacrifice to Achieve what you want?
Next, you need to define your goals. Then, you must understand how honest you are about achieving those goals. People beg and complain because they set lofty goals, then refuse to sacrifice. They want a meaningful life without work. However, the only way to live a meaningful life is to set high goals, and to do everything you can to accomplish them.
Therefore, when you craft your life, monthly, and daily goals, consider these questions:
- Do you really want this goal? Are you willing to give up your comforts to achieve your goals?
- Are these goals achievable? For example, are you 40 years old trying to break into the NBA? You have to be honest about the realism of what you’re trying to achieve.
Lastly, be patient with potential shortcomings. All worthwhile goals require time, and you are not entitled to shortcuts. Therefore, keep your focus on what you can accomplish and remain humble through the process.
3. Set Clear Plans and Get To Work
“If not us, then who? If not now, then when?” – John Lewis
You’re fighting your vices, and you’ve got your goals in hand. What’s next? Create a plan to tackle your flaws and achieve your goals. Your plan has to be stringent and realistic. Everything you do has to push you so that you can grow stronger with each challenge.
Your plans need to break down from annual to monthly to daily goals. Your daily goals need to feed into your monthly goals and your monthly goals to your yearly goals. Your yearly goals feed into your life goals.
If there is a disconnect between who you want to be and what you’re doing today, then you will feel it. Your inconsistency will take form in anxiety, stress, and fear. Therefore, refuse to live a life of contradictions. Be honest with what you’re doing and where you are going.
How do you know your plans are reasonable? You want to do them, and when you accomplish your goals, you feel stronger. Conversely, a sensible plan increases your passion when you fail. Failure is unavoidable and should be embraced when experienced after an authentic pursuit of your best self.
4. Reward Your Actions and Develop Rational Pride
The parasite, voter, and complainer have nothing to be proud of. They are pawns to their community, leaders, and vices. They do not act because they want to. They act because they are told.
As an individual, you define your life, set the terms, and accomplish your goals. Therefore, you can have rational pride in your life. Rational pride is satisfaction towards the pursuit of virtue and significant challenge. Revel in the good you’re doing and continue to do. Hold your head high when you conquer vice or embrace better habits. Never let anyone belittle you.
Lastly, you will become tired as you seek an active role in your life. When you get tired, you will be tempted to beg for easy solutions. To avoid such a problem, take care of your body and set clear rewards to keep yourself inspired. For example, if you complete an important, significant project, then relax with a game or a movie. Take a walk or enjoy a snack.
You’ll know when you’ve indulged too much. Feelings of anxiety will arise, and your response should be to return to work.
Refuse to Beg By Becoming an Individual
“We must reject the idea that every time a law’s broken, society is guilty rather than the lawbreaker. It is time to restore the American precept that each individual is accountable for his actions.” – Ronald Reagan
People beg for government solutions, corporate freebies, and communal handouts because they refuse to embrace responsibility for their lives. Furthermore, these same people will complain about individuals who do welcome duty and shun vice. The greedy, envious nature of weak individuals is undeniable.
Unfortunately, such weak individuals are well-trained pawns for the elite and power classes. These individuals have no self-respect; they are second-handers and parasites. However, you do not have to follow this path. You can achieve a better life by becoming your ideal self. There is no limitation on your growth.
Therefore, refuse to beg. Refuse to be yet another slave to the masses and the elites. Embrace personal responsibility for yourself by setting goals, overcoming vice, and pursuing your plans.
- What was the last thing you complained about? Why? What bothered you?
- How often do you feel stress or anxiety? Why do you feel this way? What can you do to better handle your anxiety?
- Do you believe the government can solve your problems? What about a shiny, corporate toy?
- In what ways are you capable of resolving your issues? What habits could you abandon now to improve your quality of life?
Please remember that it’s important to do the actionables. You’re not on this earth to simply read but to do. To become an individual, you must act more than you consume.
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